Sunday, May 28, 2017

May 28, 2017

Hi boys and girls,
We're so excited about our transfer from Pinotepa to Cuernavaca.  The mission has already found us an apartment and the truck will be coming this Wednesday to move us, which will be a little dicey to figure out how to get ourselves back there, but we'll figure it out.  I can't tell you how excited we are.  But, as always, leaving a place you'e lived in for 8 months has its downside also...we will both really miss being able to work in the dirt, planting and growing stuff, sweating our brains out, watching the chickens growing.  We've really enjoyed doing what we have been doing for 8 months and will miss some of the people here also.  Dad and Nacho became good friends.  

BUT...we also feel that our time has been well spent and are very happy about the few successes we'e had here:  22 fruit trees planted and the back lot cleaned, the grape vines are just beautiful, the chickens are thriving and we now have a total of 18, some of our women are experiencing very good success in baking and selling, some of the self-reliance concepts Dad has been trying and trying to teach for months are starting to take root, poco a poco we have seen progress, and for that we are very grateful.  It's been a very challenging but very good experience for both of us.  You boys might get a kick out of knowing that Dad actually got a couple of blisters on his hands from all the shoveling he did a couple of weeks ago...yes, Dad has become a soft-handed sissy!

We're not super sure about our next assignment, only that President Avila wants us to be more centrally located (in our mission area) and then probably travel to other locations for two or three days at a time to teach.  He feels very strongly that some of what we have taught could be very good business opportunities for our members and opportunities to become more self-reliant.  We might work in the office a bit, we might be inspecting missionaries' apartments, and we might need to get a car now to get around.  Pinotepa is such a small town that we didn't feel a car was necessary, but this move might change things for us.  We will just have to wait a see...President Avila and us are making up our mission as time goes on because this mission has not had senior missionaries in 9 years at least.

So a couple of updates on our projects:  RAIN has finally come to Pinotepa this week so our new trees and grape vines are indeed thriving.  They're scrawny but healthy and beautiful.  We now have a total of 18 chickens and got our first egg this morning.  Dad has always called me a City Slicker, but I am just fascinated watching nature take place with both the things we've planted and the chickens that are growing.  Before we left for Acapulco last week Dad and I planted four LONG rows of corn for chicken feed, and with just a little bit of rain many of the seeds have popped up through the dirt and are growing.  We really do hate to leave this part of our mission.  But the foundation has been laid for these people to become self-reliant and it's great to be a little part of that.  Also, a couple of our sisters and their families are doing really, really well with baking and selling, which is awesome.  The kids are having a youth conference this summer and need to help pay their way...well, these people don't have extra money AT ALL.  Hermana Mayra started baking and her girls are selling muffins and bread out of their little tienda.  Mayra approached a small grocery store, kind of like a circle K, and asked if they would sell some cinnamon bread and earn a little extra money, which they did and sold out!  After just two Saturdays this family has earned about 1000 pesos, which is enough to pay for one of the kids to go to conference.  They are VERY excited about their success.  Also our Hermana Eugenia continues her panaderia with success and today was so excited to tell us that her family in Acapulco has decided to focus on making the cinnamon bread to sell and are going gang busters!!!  It's pretty darn exciting for us to see this happening...and it also gives others a bit of encouragement to try it also.  In Dad's assignment in the District Presidency he has been teaching and teaching and teaching the concept of calendaring, which these people absolutely do not do.  Finally today we saw some germination of that also...the District President told Dad today that he was going to start providing a calendar to the district members with activities and assignments, etc.  Believe me, this is real progress!  Since December he's tried to convince them that if they would save just 6 pesos a day they could have enough to go to the temple quarterly.  Today in priesthood meeting he said they talked about that extensively...that it works.  The progress here has been so slow, but we can see it happening more and more.  So it must be time for us to leave!

So, I only have a few more days to check for scorpions and other critters in our house every morning.  Last time I found a scorpion I didn't even get upset...just got my spray and killed the darn thing.  I can even sleep now without the sheet covering my whole head!!  Of course, we haven't had any tarantulas in several months to really see if I freak out with them.  I'm sure there will be other challenges ahead.  

Below is a story Dad and I saw in the Church News, which you may have already seen,  If not, it's awesome. When we leave here on Wednesday or Thursday or Friday (who knows, this is Mexico) we won't be in contact for several days until we can get internet again.  So, I guess if you don't hear from the Church that we're missing don't be concerned.  Geoff, that reminds me, I'm wondering if our new phone didn't get activated with the cell service because we don't have any cell service on the phone, only internet.  But we're normally either home or at the church so I wasn't concerned about it, but now that we'll be on the road more it would be good to have cell service.  Would you check on that for us please, thank you.  First the story:

Parker Strong, a 19-year-old from Centerville, Utah, sat on a tro-tro in West Africa. The Ghanaian public transportation was overcrowded and passengers began to pass their goods back for others to help hold. Strong was handed a goat to keep on his lap. It breathed on his face and he looked out the window at the rain forest he was driving through.
"In that moment it just hit me," Strong said. "'I’m in the middle of West Africa.’"
Strong, a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, was called to serve in the Ghana Accra Mission in 2013. Although he would eventually get used to the culture and learn several different dialects of the language, upon arriving in Ghana, Strong had some major adjustments.
The first three months Strong viewed as an adventure. Waking up each morning to fetch water, using a bucket to shower and living life without electricity seemed exciting. However, the excitement began to wear off as the reality of his new circumstances settled in. Along with longing for the luxuries he had at home, Strong began to have doubts that Ghana was the place he could share the gospel the best.
"I think it’s natural for most missionaries to feel that way," Strong said. "‘Is this really where I’m supposed to be? Is this what I should be doing with my life?’"
One night in September, such thoughts lingered in Strong's mind as he tried to help teach a lesson with his companion. They sat across from a sewer in a tiny fishing village. The sun was beginning to set when Strong looked up and saw a young boy walking by wearing a Jr. Jazz basketball jersey.
"I looked at it and I was like, ‘Oh my gosh, that’s the Jazz, that’s my hometown team,’" Strong said. "That alone was so exciting because it was something I recognized from home. ... I looked at that and was like, 'Wow, that really speaks to me, that’s so cool. It’s a little piece of home in the middle of West Africa."
Strong asked the boy to come over, and asked if he could look at the jersey. The boy took it off and handed it to Strong. As he held it on his lap, Strong noticed the jersey was a number zero, the same number he had worn many years ago in Jr. Jazz. Strong flipped the jersey inside out to see the reversible side.
"Inside I saw a signature, and there in terrible handwriting, probably the handwriting of a 10-year-old it said, ‘Parker B. Strong,'" Strong said. "That’s my name. It was an out-of-body experience, it was like, ‘Is this real? Is this really happening? Am I dreaming? Is this really in my hands right in front of me?'"
Overcome by emotion, Strong immediately felt love and awareness from God. "Literally all my fears, all of my doubts, everything was laid to rest," Strong said. "The odds of that happening are extremely astronomical. That just doesn’t happen, that’s not a coincidence. I looked at it and got pretty teary thinking of that and looking at it. Here in my hands was evidence that God loved me and that he was telling me that I was where I was supposed to be. It was in the form of a Jr. Jazz jersey that I’m sure I had signed at the time because I thought I was going to be some big star and it was going to sell for millions of dollars. But no, sitting in Ghana, West Africa, was my jersey and it was more priceless to me than it ever could have been."

We hope you are all looking forward to an awesome summer.  Thank you for your prayers...we have been protected while traveling and safe in our home. We hope we have accomplished what the Lord wanted us to accomplish in part of his vineyard. 

We love you, Mom and Dad

Monday, May 15, 2017

May 15, 2017

Dad, having fun on his mission.





In case you're wondering, that's not water all over him.  He's hot!
We just got home from planting the rest of the 22 fruit trees behind the church.  Five years from now the members will be inundated with fruit.  And he's happy to have it done!

Monday, May 8, 2017

May 8, 2017

Yesterday at church dad and I were giggling to ourselves about the gift the Sunday School teacher gave to all the mothers for an early mothers day.  He had the elders pass out a couple of bags of marshmallows for each mom to take one.  It was funny to us, but in reality they like marshmallows and popped them right in their mouths, even though it was fast Sunday. 
So remember that next Sunday for Mother's Day when they give you a flower, or chocolate, or a cookie.

Friday, May 5, 2017

May 5, 2017

So dad's routine is to walk in the house, pull his chair up in front of the fan and chill!!  Not exactly chill, but less hot.


Monday, May 1, 2017

May 1, 2017

Ok, guys, I actually feel vindicated for the infamous "gratitude talk" of years ago, that you all like to chide Dad and I about.  Not only did I never regret that little "talk" but I am now even more sure of its significance in your lives.  There's an article on the Church's home page this week about how to live the "good life," which includes gratitude as one important aspect of living the good life.  Here is the quote that I like:

"Gratitude and humility are closely intertwined. We live in a self-centered age. Social media, in particular, can easily be used for self-promotion. It has never been more important to be grateful and humble. Those who possess these attributes express appreciation for their blessings as they follow the Savior’s example.

My friend Harvard professor Roger B. Porter, who is a faithful member of the Church, noted at one of the commencement proceedings at Harvard in May 2015 that gratitude “requires that we acknowledge our debt to others,” and “it often involves a humble response for unearned or unmerited gifts.” He concluded: “If you choose to embrace gratitude as a central element of your life, it will serve you well. It will help you resist the temptation to succumb to pride and to fall into a sense of entitlement.  It will help you to see the good and to acknowledge the positive. It will help you to put in context the bumps in the road and the adversity you will from time to time encounter. It will help you focus attention on those less fortunate than you whose lives you can bless.”

I must say that the talk was quite effective in our daily family living...you all began to look for things you were grateful for and expressed that gratitude.  I remember saying that if you couldn't find anything good about the meal that had been prepared for you then compliment the cook on how cool and refreshing the milk or water was!  There was hardly a meal prepared after that that I didn't hear from most if not all of you that the dinner was good, thanks, mom.  When we did things together as a family, it was always followed by thanks mom and dad.  It wasn't for US that we wanted you to have an attitude of gratitude, but for YOU, each of you.  I believe that for the most part you do see the good and acknowledge the positive, put adversity and challenges in their proper perspectives, and indeed focus on service to others, rather than being served.  Yep, I think that little discussion we had so many years ago has served you each well.  And I hope that you all will, if you haven't already, have that talk with our grandchildren so that they don't "fall into a sense of entitlement."

I think this entire letter has been prompted by the disheartening sense of entitlement that we witness here in Mexico on a DAILY basis, and it is especially disheartening coming from the members who should know better. They exhibit very little, if any, gratitude, and it is disturbing to say the least.  The entire culture has an entitlement attitude (what dad likes to refer to as the attitude that what's yours is mine if I can get it) and take things that don't belong to them. They are not willing to do their share of keeping the church buildings and grounds clean, they are not willing to keep their commitments, or respect time commitments, they are not willing to help with the "community" projects that have been ongoing for the last six or seven months, but they are always willing to take.  They withhold uplifting and encouraging comments to each other, they do not say thank you. They do not teach their children to keep the chapel clean and tidy...trash is strewn everywhere.  Regrettably, they are not willing to give back in gratitude for what little they do have.  They exhibit entitlement attitude in their driving habits...daily it feels like we pedestrians are target practice with little concern for our safety, if you are waiting your turn at the bank or grocery store or anywhere for that matter, you can plan on someone (actually several someones) cutting in front of you.  "Common courtesy" is not common here. And we have no doubt that all of this is a result of a liberal entitlement society.  When the people get, get, get and are not expected in any way to give, give, give, then an entitlement attitude has been created.  All you have to do is watch the news a couple of times to know that the same thing is happening in the US...try NOT giving the people what they think they are entitled to and the protests and the violence starts!

If you haven't already, please have the "gratitude talk" with your children.  You will be doing them and society a HUGE favor! 

This is NOT intended to discourage any one of you from giving and doing for your children or anyone.  We should be willing to give of our time, talents, substance, and uplifting words of encouragement.  But it's just as important that we be a grateful people also.

We would not in any way want these sentiments to discourage anyone else from serving as missionaries.  These are our observations and concerns for our family only please.

Since our return from the US we have talked with several people who have told us that there were five murders in Pinotepa while we were gone, and we now know of four more since we returned.  In total nine murders in this little town of about 30,000 people in about three weeks time.  The cartel has apparently moved in and is making its presence known.  It's a bit concerning for us.  But for now all is well with us.  The angels are busy here.  Great letter from Cameron this week...he's on fire!!!  That's awesome.

Love you all,
Mom